"My X broke my dick"

I've been in touch with an old flame or rather spark and I must admit interest is there. But now another spanner seems to have been tossed into the mix. He came out and said his X broke his dick.....

Appartently he was on the bottom and his wife was riding him when she slipped and missed. His dick was injured. When torn blood vessels heal cartilage develops and can cause a kink so now he is truly kinky. It can go away on its own i 2-3 years.

Apparently there are things that can be done to straighten it but as he says he is not using it is not an immediate problem. Plus he also said that he prefers 'play' to actual sex.

Sounds familiar but not sure it is the kind of play loverboy and I get up to.

It's complicated...

Hopefully the old boyfriends popping up will make the married man think a bit. It is also making me think..... what if? wouldn't it be nice if? what would my life be like if?

One of these boyfriends is worth at least £20 million and he appears interested in me.

My old flame from 15 years ago and I are now chatting on a regular basis. His marriage ended in divorce and he appears to be interested in me. However, he may be just being friendly except he is way too friendly. From his photos his looks have gone seriously downhill. But he is a millionaire. He is also charming, intelligent, moral, conservative and shares several interests with myself.

He doesn't doesn't consider me a gold digger as he and I dated before he had money. I was madly in love with him but he left me for a girl who eventually caused him a lot of hurt and embarassment.

I am still dateless in 2008. Events keep getting in the way. I now have a two week disruption where I am working different hours outside London.

The flu bug hit and I was confined to my bed. I am still seeing the married man. We are getting together for short trysts and having plenty of pervy chats. But that is not progress.

I'd be lying if I said his being filthy rich didn't capture my imagination. Will just have to wait and see what develops. One thing is certain no amount of money will have me rushing up the isle without LOVE!

Dating site with a difference

Nothing ventured nothing gained. With a slow start to the 2008 dating calendar I need to widen the net and give my dating life a kick up the ass.

So on today's agenda is registering my profile on Sugardaddie.com. When pay day rolls around I will upgrade to the premium account. All my pre-Christmas shopping has a taken a dent and I promised myself I would be a good girl and not buy anything until at least February.

Old boyfriends never die

Today I had two old boyfriends contact me after over 20 years. One is now "happily married" with 4 kids, big house, cottage and all the mod-cons. The other is still single and kicking back as a self made millionaire playboy on a tax free tropical island.

I feel as though my life hasn't changed. Nothing big has happened. I have changed jobs several times and moved up the ladder quite a bit. But there is nothing dramatic about 2.4% pay raises each year and a slightly fancier title. Ok I also own a house now. But it is small and in still in need of work. I have a cat now. I am still single. Still looking ultimately for the great love of my life. Still hoping for a better tomorrow.

Both these guys I dumped after a few years for various reasons. I am still very certain that given the circumstances at the time I did the right thing.

But I feel like such a loser all the same.

No Sex In A Marriage Club

I have been in long term relationships and noticed the decline of sex. With one boyfriend the last two years of our relationship were entirely sexless. I talk to my girlfriends about this all the time and even they say how common it is.

Yet I am constantly amazed how big this club is. The number of no-strings attached sites is huge with hundreds of thousands of members. Finding a married man with whom to have an affair with is easy.


In the beginning of a no fantasies start about sex with other people. Of course at first they would never dream of breaking the taboo as well as becoming a cheater. Over time, frustration, anger, sadness, confusion, build up to point the idea enters as a possibility. Thinking about it more and more it becomes easy to justify it. When it becomes acceptable they get the courage to act on it.


Any guilty feelings are lessened because I know that Loverboy was at the 'possibility' point when I came along. His ad on a no-strings-attached sex site was already up and running.

The quality of men on the illicit affair sites are actually higher than the on the dating sites. By quality I am talking better looking, educated, successful and take better care of themselves. Also the ads almost always state that going out to nice restaurants is involved. They want the whole romantic and sensual package with a smart sexy and intelligent woman. Not a quick fuck in an alley or a slapper. I have now added a profile to a couple of the sites and have started to consider if maybe I should consider taking on another lover who is also married but has more time and can do weekends away.


Loverboy is sneaking around but a lot of men are doing it with their wives' consent. I was talking with one man who's wife told him to get a lover. She hates going out and feels fat and frumpy but she is happy that way as she just wants to stay home and look after the kids while keeping house. She has no desire to even go away on city breaks or do any of the fun stuff her husband wants to do. Yet together at home they are content but admit that they can't give each other what they want.


I think about often about how risky marriage is with the divorce rate and cost. I wonder if a more relaxed attitude to extramarital affairs would alleviate it. Loverboy says that now that he is getting sex (with me) he is happier in his marriage than he has been in awhile. At the point he was placing the contact ad he was considering walking out.


Would be interesting if there were statistics with other men with mistresses on impact of the marriage. After all men never leave their wives for a mistress right?

2008 Week 1 Dating Progress Report

DATING:

• Emails exchanged with three prospects from Match.com. Unfortunately the really cute one is off to Verbier until May!!


• Still waiting for the other two prospects to get back to me and actually set up dates for meeting up.


• 6 new responses all from unsuitable specimens. One lives in the north of
  England - too far, one has 3 kids (yuck), one fat and unattractive, 2 too old
  and old looking and the 6th not only too old , but lives too far, has no photo,
  is a driving instructor who's hobby is 'ice dancing'. Aaaarrrgggghhh.
  
• One rejected me as I don't want to have kids and he is desperate for them.

REST OF MY LIFE:

• A very productive day at work and and meeting old friends for an evening
  out.


• Bills to pay and still waiting for my bonus cheque.
  

MARRIED MAN:

• A few exchanges of pervy texts with Loverboy and making plans for
  our next encounter

  

2008 Dating Kick Off

After taking a Christmas break today was the day to get back out there and start dating again. I went on to the sites where I am registered; Match.com, The Single Solution, Dating Direct, My Single Friend and Matchmaker to see what Santa brought me.

Not only does he not look a day over sixty but the name vodka and the fact he supporting his hulking carcass on the rail says it all really.

How to spot a fake internet dating profile

The golden rule is if seems to good to be true it probably is.

This gem has fake written all over him. Hi name is 'loving you' and his purpose in life is to please his woman. Nothing gives him greater pleasure. He works in construction and is good at DIY but he looks like a male model. He also loves to cook and clean, doing his share around the house. He also doesn't care what you look as he believes beauty is only on the inside. Pass the sick bucket!!

Could a fear of change be sabotaging my relationships

Six years of singledom and dating countless guys it now feels as though I am destined to remain single. Dating is a minefield. Lot of my friends aren't single five minutes before getting their hooks firmly into the next guy. I have two friends who have been married, divorced and then re-married in less time.

I shared my bed every Friday and Saturday for 5 years with my last beau without progressing any further. While he was dumping me he let it slip that he thought I had a problem with commitment because I never gave him any space in the cloest or anywhere else in my house. My point was he never asked.

He lived with his parents while I own a detatched house. It is very, very small though. It isn't the sort of place where two people could live comfortably. I always thought that upon meeting 'The One' we would get a bigger place that would be 'ours'. I was waiting for him to bring up the subject of our future. Whenever I broached it he said he didn't love me. I saw him when he wanted to see me. It decreased in the last 3 years. It didn't occur to me to offer him drawer space when he couldn't committ to two days in advance.

Heaps of logistical problems sping up when a relationship becomes serious. What if he wants to live closer to his family in a different area? What if he doesn't want a big garden and prefers a flat? What if ... what if... what if.... what if....Houses have to be sold, finances merged and the fear of what if it doesn't work out and we have to unravel this mess?

Some times it does seem like so much hassle and I have to wonder if this is sabatoging my relationships. Perhaps I am too reluctant to make changes?

When browsing the profiles of prospective dates my requirements are:

• Must live in the same area or like the area where I live and want to move there


• Must have equal or similar amount of equity or net worth


• Must like having a garden and barbecues


• Should work in London at a similar level to me


• Should own a nice car


• Should have fairly good DIY skills


• Must want similar lifestyle and share house work 50/50
  

Add to this must have own hair, teeth, good education, steady employment/career, no criminal record, no drugs or alcohol problems, be of good charactor, good income as well as no baggage....(kids) in an over 40 age bracket and it seems I am asking for a miracle.

Looking for lady friend

Hallo I'm Geoff. And you are GORGEOUS! You remind me of someone, perhaps a B celeb, but I can't remember who it is. Anyhow, I am 51, separated for 11 months, living in Northolt Middx, and working at the moment in the City.I run my own company, and am looking for a ladyfriend for a bit of "excitement". I really am EXPECTING to hear from you!

Several things stick out about this and turn my stomache:

• I am 'working at the moment'
• "ladyfriend"
• "excitement"

If this add was on a contact website I wouldn't have batted an eyelash. However this gem posted on a dating website for people looking for 'love'. One only wonders why this gem is divorced?