Sexiest cushions

Love these - just ordered two from Secrets of the Boudoir for £150 each in pure silk.

La Senza Valentine's Day Pick

La Senza has this gorgeous 100% silk set on sale. Perfect for Valentine's Day....

Tapping into my Eternal Spirit

I am loving these playfull nickers by Eternal Spirit.

In the bedroom they bring out my playful side and make me feel like a burlesque star. The matching corsets are divine as well.

Order online from their website or check for stockists near you. There are located in Nottingham so lucky anyone who lives near as their flagship store looks marvelous!!

Bring on Playtime!!

Silk sheets proven to prevent wrinkles and increase the libido

After two weeks now of sleeping on pure silk sheets I am a completely converted. I want to sleep on these from now on. They feel absolutely amazing and so sexy!

Unfortunately caring for them is expensive so I probably will only use the full 100% silk set on special occasions. But because, Between the Sheets (image from site) also sells a washable polyester version which equally feels amazing, I am going to use them for everyday use but use them with pure silk pillow cases.

This is because I have learned that pure silk sheets also have health and beauty benefits as well:

• 100% pure Charmeuse silk is naturally hypoallergenic.
• Experts recommend Pure Silk pillowcases for hair care -
• Silk fabric contains natural cellular albumen fibre.This component is thought to contribute to skin health by helping to speed the metabolism of skin cells, thus reducing signs of aging.

Best candles for putting him in the mood for sex

In a previous post I wrote about the importance of scent and choosing a perfume to seduce. I am also a big fan of candles especially sented candles which add a nice gentle fragrance.The typical room sprays tend to smell artificial and chemically. I also want something natural.

I have just discovered the most amazing candle that contains all the key ingredients sandlewood, white flowers jasmine and Ylang Ylang as well as musk and patchouli, which are known to be sexually stimulating, it is called "Senuous" by Parks Candles.

The also do one called "Desire" which is also heavenly. It is heavier with sandle wood, patchouli, cedar and vertiver. Both of these are in the Mood range. However look in their other ranges for less expensive candles with pure Jasmine, Sandlewood and other seductive fragrances.

Candle Features:

• 100% Vegan
• Use no parafin waxes
• GM free
• Use no animal products
• Eco friendly from renewable sources
• Have a lead free wick
• Smokeless and soot free
• Fragranced with essential oils

How to make your legs look slimmer

Dressing to please a man is important - in my opinion. However this doesn't mean tarty or sleazy. In fact ask most men what they prefer and they like classy. The sexier stuff should be worn underneath descreetly.

Lots and lots of men love stockings especially fishnets. Lots of girls only wear tights these days. I find tights generally less comfortable, especially in the crotch. Also, if you get a run you have to throw out the whole pair.

But with stockings and stay-ups if you have several pairs of the same style you only have to replace the one with the run and they will last longer. Handy for a night out to slip an extra one in your bag and takes up less room.

But the best tip of all is to try fishnets with a fairly small patern (picutre shown above left) from Levante). Because of the contour on your legs the net shapes around your leg giving a black outline and shadow. This shapes your legs and makes them appear slimmer.

Order online from Figleaves, Agent Provocateur or UK Tights

Erotica

I went to Erotica this year and spent a fortune on lingere from Kiss Me Deadly, new sheets, toys and everything imaginable. I was like a kid in a candy store. I went crazy buying stuff. The feelings I had were both liberating and empowering. I know that everything is for him. I fear that any other man would be replused. I can't wait until he uses everything on me.

Use the Power of Scent in Seduction

Forget about wearing flowery, fruity, woody and citrus perfumes if you want to attract men. When it comes to seduction the sexiest perfumes tend to include scents of white flowers (such as jasmine), vanilla, amber and a musky base. Lalique de Lalique and Bal á Versailles are both good examples.

This is because psychogenics such as vanilla work on the central nervous system. Other scents such as musk have animalistic notes and will make us think of our base instincts such as sex.

Chypre perfumes made from sandalwood are even more successful.

White flowers, which are consistently used in many perfumes and contain a molecule called indole which occurs naturally in animal notes and stimulate feelings such as sex. Which is why fragrances such as Ylang Ylang and Jasmine are known to have a seductive effect. Oriental perfumes particularily are known to have a lot of natural aphrodisiacs.

I love perfume and have a bit of collection. I had been experimenting with various perfumes to see which one would Loverboy would like. Because he likes girls to dress flowery and the no make-up look I assumed something soft and feminine. Yet he never reacted to my perfume and then I wore Opium and he raved about it and got very amorous.

'Opium Perfume'

by 'Yves Saint Laurent', Created by the design house of Yves Saint Laurent in 1977, opium is classified as a refined, oriental, soft fragrance. This feminine scent possesses a blend of rose, carnation, sandalwood, pepper, lily of the valley and clove.

'Opium Orient Extrême'

This has aroma of classic Opium fragrance with top notes of mandarin orange, bergamot and lily-of-the-valley; a heart of jasmine, carnation and spices; and base notes of vanilla, amber, opoponax and patchouli.

A real love potion that says 'trust me'

There is no drug to make a man fall madly in love with you. But there is a chemical which could make him feel more at ease around you. Drugging a man to fall in love with you won't do much for your karma anyway. What oxytocin does is not that sinister.

New Scientist magazine has featured several articles on oxytocin which describes its effects.

What it can do is make people feel more at ease around you. This could be great for those first date jitters when you are hardly relaxed yourself let alone in control enough to make some one else feel relaxed around you.

Or what about the first time you have sex to help overcome 'performance anxiety'? The chemical will work on you as well. The suggestion is you spray it on your clothes that you are wearing. You could even spray it in on the bed sheets.

I've known about Oxytocin for awhile now and been impressed with the claims as well as the science behind it. I have never tried it mainly because it is only available on US sites which look less than trust worthy. But nothing ventured nothing gained. So another £17 lighter I have now added a two month's supply of Oxytocin to my arsonal.
Available online at: http://www.lovescent.com/

Trick for creating bedroom eyes that attract men

Bedroom eyes have now been scientifically proven to attract mates. To achieve the big pupil look apparently you must dim the lights. I am already a big fan of soft lighting. Not too soft though as guys get lots of stimuli visually. You don't want to have sex in the dark. Big mistake. Another trick is the new coloured lenses. Some of these are quite clever and add reflections to make your eyes sparkle (good for dim light) and a darker line around the eye to add definition.

Check out http://www.contactlenses.co.uk/ Don't forget your perscription and to see an eye doctor first to get fitted.

Learning the tactics and strategies for lasting love

The article in the Daily Mail has really got me thinking hard. It is not just because I have persued a career that I am single. I lost men to other women along the way and had guys who just weren't ready and then went and married the next girl they saw. I could have understood if the women were better looking, richer and offered more status. But in most cases it wasn't clear.
So in mission to spend the next two weeks as productive as possible I am going to invesitgate the laws of attraction.

Time to hit the books again. I downloaded Christian's Carter's ebook "Catch Him and Keep Him" and started reading that last night. I have also just ordered the delux DVD collection.

But that is only a part of it. Falling in love triggers a chemical process and that process is also what I want to master.

According to New Scientist Magazine chemistry is blame for allowing yourself to fall in love with a married man.

http://www.newscientist.com/channel/sex/love/dn9981

http://www.lovetactics.com/

Does your decor create a positve effect on the libido?

Yesterday, I stopped by Loverboys house to give him a wake-up call. I prefer my own home and don't like to do it in some one else's bed. That increases the risk factor as well as adding insult to injury. He insisted and curiousity about what their bedroom would be like also motivated me.

He left the door open and I walked up the stairs to find him lying naked in their small bed waiting for me. The room smelled musky and stale. Glaring sunlight streamed through the net curtains almost blinding me. I guess it was what you'd expect from a subhurban married couple's bedroom. It was a little bit sad that it was the least lavishly decorated room in the house. I didn't feel my usual and erotic self.

Expensive furnishings were reserved for the rooms they entertain in, the living room, dining room etc. I sat down beside him on the cheap tacky blue and yellow poly-cotton duvet cover and placed my handbag on her bedside table next to her brick-a-bac. My handbag never looked so out of place.

The table lamps looked like they cost £10, if that, and had the same dingy patern as the duvet cover. The lemon coloured walls had a boarder of wallpaper with the same pattern. Probably from Argos, years ago. The bed seemed very small. . The furniture was cheap white MDF.

It got me thinking to the effect of good bedroom decor on the libido. My own bedroom is decorated in rich browns, reds, pink and black.

My tips for a seductive bedroom decor are:

• Choose good colours for sex: reds, black, purple (not lilac), pinks (warm and rich with darker colours), creams (again with darker colours), flesh colours, gold, metalics, dark browns and maroons.


• The bigger and more dramatic the bed the better. Think of it as a stage. Don't discount sleigh beds for the kinky appeal - ropes can be wound around the feet.


• Don't go for Divans - yuck!!


• Luxurious artwork and the more erotic the better. Big and oversized is best.


• Lots of pillows and cushions - these will come in handy ;-)


• Reflective surfaces and large mirrors


• Beautiful Dressing table (minimum of make up and perfume)


• Lots of texture- fur throws, leather, silk, satan and some rougher surfaces ;-)


• Toy box for your stash of toys (the more the better) as well as


• lotions, oils, room scents, lubes, etc.


• Lamps with soft diffused lighting


• Rich draps (no net curtains!) or blinds if the decor is ultra chic and modern

My favourite shops for the bedroom are Coco de Mer and And So to Bed! I guarantee you won't get a solid night's sleep! If you are still not convinced that the bedroom is worthy of luxury furniture consider that this is the place where you will spend approximately 1/3 of your life. The right matress can make a huge difference in getting a good night's sleep as well preventing back aches.

expirement

After 3 months we are comfortable with each other and the situation. I can predict which nights I will see him and almost every opportunity is taken advantage of.

A few weeks ago I brought him a prostrate massaging toy by Nexus and treated him to his first anal penetration. He trusts me enough to use it on him along with other toys now. He absolutely loves it.

Like a lot of men he associated anal sex with being gay. But after witnessing me in the full throws of pleasure at having a vibrator inserted in my ass he wanted to try it himself.

This has now given us more options.... Such as me giving him a blow job while penetrating him anally or using a double ended vibrator so we can penetrate each other and grind it into each other.

Now we are opening up to each other and discussing our most private fantasies and trying new things. Sex is now an incredible game for us to play. He said that he never knew sex could be like this and he finds normal sex boring now. Telling me, "I've never felt like this before and had feelings so strong for anyone else", he told me one night. I feel exactly the same way. I had a boyfriend and sex just involved the missionary position with me lying there staring at the ceiling.
I always wished sex could be like this.

The only problem is it might be difficult to go back to regular sex.