It's complicated...

Hopefully the old boyfriends popping up will make the married man think a bit. It is also making me think..... what if? wouldn't it be nice if? what would my life be like if?

One of these boyfriends is worth at least £20 million and he appears interested in me.

My old flame from 15 years ago and I are now chatting on a regular basis. His marriage ended in divorce and he appears to be interested in me. However, he may be just being friendly except he is way too friendly. From his photos his looks have gone seriously downhill. But he is a millionaire. He is also charming, intelligent, moral, conservative and shares several interests with myself.

He doesn't doesn't consider me a gold digger as he and I dated before he had money. I was madly in love with him but he left me for a girl who eventually caused him a lot of hurt and embarassment.

I am still dateless in 2008. Events keep getting in the way. I now have a two week disruption where I am working different hours outside London.

The flu bug hit and I was confined to my bed. I am still seeing the married man. We are getting together for short trysts and having plenty of pervy chats. But that is not progress.

I'd be lying if I said his being filthy rich didn't capture my imagination. Will just have to wait and see what develops. One thing is certain no amount of money will have me rushing up the isle without LOVE!

Best candles for putting him in the mood for sex

In a previous post I wrote about the importance of scent and choosing a perfume to seduce. I am also a big fan of candles especially sented candles which add a nice gentle fragrance.The typical room sprays tend to smell artificial and chemically. I also want something natural.

I have just discovered the most amazing candle that contains all the key ingredients sandlewood, white flowers jasmine and Ylang Ylang as well as musk and patchouli, which are known to be sexually stimulating, it is called "Senuous" by Parks Candles.

The also do one called "Desire" which is also heavenly. It is heavier with sandle wood, patchouli, cedar and vertiver. Both of these are in the Mood range. However look in their other ranges for less expensive candles with pure Jasmine, Sandlewood and other seductive fragrances.

Candle Features:

• 100% Vegan
• Use no parafin waxes
• GM free
• Use no animal products
• Eco friendly from renewable sources
• Have a lead free wick
• Smokeless and soot free
• Fragranced with essential oils

Use the Power of Scent in Seduction

Forget about wearing flowery, fruity, woody and citrus perfumes if you want to attract men. When it comes to seduction the sexiest perfumes tend to include scents of white flowers (such as jasmine), vanilla, amber and a musky base. Lalique de Lalique and Bal á Versailles are both good examples.

This is because psychogenics such as vanilla work on the central nervous system. Other scents such as musk have animalistic notes and will make us think of our base instincts such as sex.

Chypre perfumes made from sandalwood are even more successful.

White flowers, which are consistently used in many perfumes and contain a molecule called indole which occurs naturally in animal notes and stimulate feelings such as sex. Which is why fragrances such as Ylang Ylang and Jasmine are known to have a seductive effect. Oriental perfumes particularily are known to have a lot of natural aphrodisiacs.

I love perfume and have a bit of collection. I had been experimenting with various perfumes to see which one would Loverboy would like. Because he likes girls to dress flowery and the no make-up look I assumed something soft and feminine. Yet he never reacted to my perfume and then I wore Opium and he raved about it and got very amorous.

'Opium Perfume'

by 'Yves Saint Laurent', Created by the design house of Yves Saint Laurent in 1977, opium is classified as a refined, oriental, soft fragrance. This feminine scent possesses a blend of rose, carnation, sandalwood, pepper, lily of the valley and clove.

'Opium Orient Extrême'

This has aroma of classic Opium fragrance with top notes of mandarin orange, bergamot and lily-of-the-valley; a heart of jasmine, carnation and spices; and base notes of vanilla, amber, opoponax and patchouli.

Getting past the mask to establish real connection

I have been reading about how to make real connections with men. The unspoken language of the true self.

Real connections are not words. Some times a connection can be acheived with just a look. The concept of the persona was invented by 'Carl Jung'. The persona is described as the mask that hides his true feelings and gives men the tough guy exerior. Women of course have one too. Beneath that exterior he has fears, feelings, emotions and doubts.

Men bond with other men when doing activities rather than talking. Sex validates that you think he is significant.

Today when I saw Loverboy I tried to engineer the connection... I sprayed myself with the oxytocin, I used my body language to shift myself towards him, I wore the contact lenses and I used my eyes and was more concious of my facial expressions.

Sex Tips

Talk in bed - talk a lot, get him to share his most intimate fantasies and find out what reallt turns him on. Ask him about lingerie. Men have a fear that women will think they are perverts if they like women in the typical red split crotch panties. Let him know that women like that are too uptight. You are different.

• Try new things like massaging his prostate gland.
  


• Experiment using toys and let him use them on you.



• Keep your skin perfectly smooth and try completely bare.
  


• Try a porno movie - It needn't be sleazy - try watching Pirates together or the Art Core series. I also like Burlesque and have the mathing outfits. Dress up but equaly don't be shy about stripping it all off. Part of the point of dressing up in a sexy outfit is to get undressed.



• Make him slightly jealous. You want him to want to posses you. Talk about your previous relationships and make him feel a little bit of pain so he will think of them as rivals and try to prove himself superior.
  


• Let him do nice things for you and do nice things for him. But keep the things you do for him light and informal.



• Talk dirty to encourage openess and to let him know that you love sex.
  


• Use perfume subtely and choose scents that are erotic to men.
  


• Study his anatomy and take your time with foreplay. Pay attention to all of his erogenous zones including his nipples and learn what he likes.
  


• Try new positions and suggest things.
  


• Try performing oral sex alternating hot and cold liquids in you mouth. Use sauces with texture like Jack Daniels maple syrup and let him lick it off you.

A real love potion that says 'trust me'

There is no drug to make a man fall madly in love with you. But there is a chemical which could make him feel more at ease around you. Drugging a man to fall in love with you won't do much for your karma anyway. What oxytocin does is not that sinister.

New Scientist magazine has featured several articles on oxytocin which describes its effects.

What it can do is make people feel more at ease around you. This could be great for those first date jitters when you are hardly relaxed yourself let alone in control enough to make some one else feel relaxed around you.

Or what about the first time you have sex to help overcome 'performance anxiety'? The chemical will work on you as well. The suggestion is you spray it on your clothes that you are wearing. You could even spray it in on the bed sheets.

I've known about Oxytocin for awhile now and been impressed with the claims as well as the science behind it. I have never tried it mainly because it is only available on US sites which look less than trust worthy. But nothing ventured nothing gained. So another £17 lighter I have now added a two month's supply of Oxytocin to my arsonal.
Available online at: http://www.lovescent.com/

Trick for creating bedroom eyes that attract men

Bedroom eyes have now been scientifically proven to attract mates. To achieve the big pupil look apparently you must dim the lights. I am already a big fan of soft lighting. Not too soft though as guys get lots of stimuli visually. You don't want to have sex in the dark. Big mistake. Another trick is the new coloured lenses. Some of these are quite clever and add reflections to make your eyes sparkle (good for dim light) and a darker line around the eye to add definition.

Check out http://www.contactlenses.co.uk/ Don't forget your perscription and to see an eye doctor first to get fitted.

Learning the tactics and strategies for lasting love

The article in the Daily Mail has really got me thinking hard. It is not just because I have persued a career that I am single. I lost men to other women along the way and had guys who just weren't ready and then went and married the next girl they saw. I could have understood if the women were better looking, richer and offered more status. But in most cases it wasn't clear.
So in mission to spend the next two weeks as productive as possible I am going to invesitgate the laws of attraction.

Time to hit the books again. I downloaded Christian's Carter's ebook "Catch Him and Keep Him" and started reading that last night. I have also just ordered the delux DVD collection.

But that is only a part of it. Falling in love triggers a chemical process and that process is also what I want to master.

According to New Scientist Magazine chemistry is blame for allowing yourself to fall in love with a married man.

http://www.newscientist.com/channel/sex/love/dn9981

http://www.lovetactics.com/