Best candles for putting him in the mood for sex

In a previous post I wrote about the importance of scent and choosing a perfume to seduce. I am also a big fan of candles especially sented candles which add a nice gentle fragrance.The typical room sprays tend to smell artificial and chemically. I also want something natural.

I have just discovered the most amazing candle that contains all the key ingredients sandlewood, white flowers jasmine and Ylang Ylang as well as musk and patchouli, which are known to be sexually stimulating, it is called "Senuous" by Parks Candles.

The also do one called "Desire" which is also heavenly. It is heavier with sandle wood, patchouli, cedar and vertiver. Both of these are in the Mood range. However look in their other ranges for less expensive candles with pure Jasmine, Sandlewood and other seductive fragrances.

Candle Features:

• 100% Vegan
• Use no parafin waxes
• GM free
• Use no animal products
• Eco friendly from renewable sources
• Have a lead free wick
• Smokeless and soot free
• Fragranced with essential oils

How to make your legs look slimmer

Dressing to please a man is important - in my opinion. However this doesn't mean tarty or sleazy. In fact ask most men what they prefer and they like classy. The sexier stuff should be worn underneath descreetly.

Lots and lots of men love stockings especially fishnets. Lots of girls only wear tights these days. I find tights generally less comfortable, especially in the crotch. Also, if you get a run you have to throw out the whole pair.

But with stockings and stay-ups if you have several pairs of the same style you only have to replace the one with the run and they will last longer. Handy for a night out to slip an extra one in your bag and takes up less room.

But the best tip of all is to try fishnets with a fairly small patern (picutre shown above left) from Levante). Because of the contour on your legs the net shapes around your leg giving a black outline and shadow. This shapes your legs and makes them appear slimmer.

Order online from Figleaves, Agent Provocateur or UK Tights

Use the Power of Scent in Seduction

Forget about wearing flowery, fruity, woody and citrus perfumes if you want to attract men. When it comes to seduction the sexiest perfumes tend to include scents of white flowers (such as jasmine), vanilla, amber and a musky base. Lalique de Lalique and Bal á Versailles are both good examples.

This is because psychogenics such as vanilla work on the central nervous system. Other scents such as musk have animalistic notes and will make us think of our base instincts such as sex.

Chypre perfumes made from sandalwood are even more successful.

White flowers, which are consistently used in many perfumes and contain a molecule called indole which occurs naturally in animal notes and stimulate feelings such as sex. Which is why fragrances such as Ylang Ylang and Jasmine are known to have a seductive effect. Oriental perfumes particularily are known to have a lot of natural aphrodisiacs.

I love perfume and have a bit of collection. I had been experimenting with various perfumes to see which one would Loverboy would like. Because he likes girls to dress flowery and the no make-up look I assumed something soft and feminine. Yet he never reacted to my perfume and then I wore Opium and he raved about it and got very amorous.

'Opium Perfume'

by 'Yves Saint Laurent', Created by the design house of Yves Saint Laurent in 1977, opium is classified as a refined, oriental, soft fragrance. This feminine scent possesses a blend of rose, carnation, sandalwood, pepper, lily of the valley and clove.

'Opium Orient Extrême'

This has aroma of classic Opium fragrance with top notes of mandarin orange, bergamot and lily-of-the-valley; a heart of jasmine, carnation and spices; and base notes of vanilla, amber, opoponax and patchouli.

Sex Tips

Talk in bed - talk a lot, get him to share his most intimate fantasies and find out what reallt turns him on. Ask him about lingerie. Men have a fear that women will think they are perverts if they like women in the typical red split crotch panties. Let him know that women like that are too uptight. You are different.

• Try new things like massaging his prostate gland.
  


• Experiment using toys and let him use them on you.



• Keep your skin perfectly smooth and try completely bare.
  


• Try a porno movie - It needn't be sleazy - try watching Pirates together or the Art Core series. I also like Burlesque and have the mathing outfits. Dress up but equaly don't be shy about stripping it all off. Part of the point of dressing up in a sexy outfit is to get undressed.



• Make him slightly jealous. You want him to want to posses you. Talk about your previous relationships and make him feel a little bit of pain so he will think of them as rivals and try to prove himself superior.
  


• Let him do nice things for you and do nice things for him. But keep the things you do for him light and informal.



• Talk dirty to encourage openess and to let him know that you love sex.
  


• Use perfume subtely and choose scents that are erotic to men.
  


• Study his anatomy and take your time with foreplay. Pay attention to all of his erogenous zones including his nipples and learn what he likes.
  


• Try new positions and suggest things.
  


• Try performing oral sex alternating hot and cold liquids in you mouth. Use sauces with texture like Jack Daniels maple syrup and let him lick it off you.

A real love potion that says 'trust me'

There is no drug to make a man fall madly in love with you. But there is a chemical which could make him feel more at ease around you. Drugging a man to fall in love with you won't do much for your karma anyway. What oxytocin does is not that sinister.

New Scientist magazine has featured several articles on oxytocin which describes its effects.

What it can do is make people feel more at ease around you. This could be great for those first date jitters when you are hardly relaxed yourself let alone in control enough to make some one else feel relaxed around you.

Or what about the first time you have sex to help overcome 'performance anxiety'? The chemical will work on you as well. The suggestion is you spray it on your clothes that you are wearing. You could even spray it in on the bed sheets.

I've known about Oxytocin for awhile now and been impressed with the claims as well as the science behind it. I have never tried it mainly because it is only available on US sites which look less than trust worthy. But nothing ventured nothing gained. So another £17 lighter I have now added a two month's supply of Oxytocin to my arsonal.
Available online at: http://www.lovescent.com/

Trick for creating bedroom eyes that attract men

Bedroom eyes have now been scientifically proven to attract mates. To achieve the big pupil look apparently you must dim the lights. I am already a big fan of soft lighting. Not too soft though as guys get lots of stimuli visually. You don't want to have sex in the dark. Big mistake. Another trick is the new coloured lenses. Some of these are quite clever and add reflections to make your eyes sparkle (good for dim light) and a darker line around the eye to add definition.

Check out http://www.contactlenses.co.uk/ Don't forget your perscription and to see an eye doctor first to get fitted.

Learning the tactics and strategies for lasting love

The article in the Daily Mail has really got me thinking hard. It is not just because I have persued a career that I am single. I lost men to other women along the way and had guys who just weren't ready and then went and married the next girl they saw. I could have understood if the women were better looking, richer and offered more status. But in most cases it wasn't clear.
So in mission to spend the next two weeks as productive as possible I am going to invesitgate the laws of attraction.

Time to hit the books again. I downloaded Christian's Carter's ebook "Catch Him and Keep Him" and started reading that last night. I have also just ordered the delux DVD collection.

But that is only a part of it. Falling in love triggers a chemical process and that process is also what I want to master.

According to New Scientist Magazine chemistry is blame for allowing yourself to fall in love with a married man.

http://www.newscientist.com/channel/sex/love/dn9981

http://www.lovetactics.com/

Tips for Dating a Married Man

I found so far the whole experience very liberating! Encounters with Mark are extroadinary and all about fantasy. And is the way it should be. A wonderful sexual dreamscape.

1. Let him come to you and do all the calling.


2. Remember he is married and it is probably not going to change anytime soon, if ever.


3. Talk only with someone you trust and who doesn't know his wife.


4. Don't ask or talk about the future. Always stay in the present.


5. Make yourself available for dates with other men and keep your eyes open for his replacement. You don't owe him your fidelity.


6. You don't need to know what he is doing when he is not with you. Keep your life brief as well.


7. Make your time together exceptional. Stock his favourite tipple, light candles (scented)


8. Wear you best lingerie and use him to make yourself feel great. Indulge youself and buy more. When you are having amazing sex £175 for a nightdress seems reasonable. http://www.luxuryfrenchlingerie.com/


9. Experiment sexually. This is a safe situation for you to as he has more to lose by telling tales.


10. Don’t expect anything and you won’t be disappointed.


11. You don’t know what really goes in their marriage so don't assume or take his word as gospel.


12. Don’t try to force change or trap him.


13. Listen to him and don't blab on about your life. Watch his body language and enjoy his company.


14. Don’t ask questions, you may not like the answers to, like his vacation with his wife.

Lots of women get involved with married men. Statistics say 40% of married men will cheat at some point. It is almost just as high for women as well. There are also times when it suits such as in between relationships or not just wanting to get serious. You get the company of a man with lots of sex and no strings. You also get your freedom.

Does your decor create a positve effect on the libido?

Yesterday, I stopped by Loverboys house to give him a wake-up call. I prefer my own home and don't like to do it in some one else's bed. That increases the risk factor as well as adding insult to injury. He insisted and curiousity about what their bedroom would be like also motivated me.

He left the door open and I walked up the stairs to find him lying naked in their small bed waiting for me. The room smelled musky and stale. Glaring sunlight streamed through the net curtains almost blinding me. I guess it was what you'd expect from a subhurban married couple's bedroom. It was a little bit sad that it was the least lavishly decorated room in the house. I didn't feel my usual and erotic self.

Expensive furnishings were reserved for the rooms they entertain in, the living room, dining room etc. I sat down beside him on the cheap tacky blue and yellow poly-cotton duvet cover and placed my handbag on her bedside table next to her brick-a-bac. My handbag never looked so out of place.

The table lamps looked like they cost £10, if that, and had the same dingy patern as the duvet cover. The lemon coloured walls had a boarder of wallpaper with the same pattern. Probably from Argos, years ago. The bed seemed very small. . The furniture was cheap white MDF.

It got me thinking to the effect of good bedroom decor on the libido. My own bedroom is decorated in rich browns, reds, pink and black.

My tips for a seductive bedroom decor are:

• Choose good colours for sex: reds, black, purple (not lilac), pinks (warm and rich with darker colours), creams (again with darker colours), flesh colours, gold, metalics, dark browns and maroons.


• The bigger and more dramatic the bed the better. Think of it as a stage. Don't discount sleigh beds for the kinky appeal - ropes can be wound around the feet.


• Don't go for Divans - yuck!!


• Luxurious artwork and the more erotic the better. Big and oversized is best.


• Lots of pillows and cushions - these will come in handy ;-)


• Reflective surfaces and large mirrors


• Beautiful Dressing table (minimum of make up and perfume)


• Lots of texture- fur throws, leather, silk, satan and some rougher surfaces ;-)


• Toy box for your stash of toys (the more the better) as well as


• lotions, oils, room scents, lubes, etc.


• Lamps with soft diffused lighting


• Rich draps (no net curtains!) or blinds if the decor is ultra chic and modern

My favourite shops for the bedroom are Coco de Mer and And So to Bed! I guarantee you won't get a solid night's sleep! If you are still not convinced that the bedroom is worthy of luxury furniture consider that this is the place where you will spend approximately 1/3 of your life. The right matress can make a huge difference in getting a good night's sleep as well preventing back aches.