The sex and happiness connection

Last night I watched a program called "How to have sex after marriage". An attractive couple married for 5 years were on the program with their sexless and troubled relationship. After giving each other dismal ratings on attraction and affection they rated each other a one for sex. The 1 was out of 10. 70% of their previous sex was misionary position and the same lack luster routine. I know there are people who could quite happily live on beans and toast every day but not me.

Sex is critical to a relationship. It is important for bonding and feeling close to a person. Intimacy is not dividing up the household chores and talking about day to day activities. No wonder some people end up feeling they are just room mates. The two were caught in a downward spiral of becoming more and more unhappy and blaming each other while becoming more and more miserable. Eventually they stop making each other feel good.

Enter some one else to boost their ego. Showing the husband faked images of his wife cheating it made him realise just how bad things could be and awakened feelings of jealously. Jealously is a magic remedy some times for making people realise what they are taking for granted and showing them what is at stake.

The trick to saving their marriage was to get them having sex again and re-awakening what attracted them to each other in the first place.

This has also been back up with science just how powerful an affect sex can have on some one's life. In Money, sex and happiness; An epirical study the more sex a person has the happier they are.