Pamela Anderson

Ye Gods! On the heals of other celebs into the design market heads a silicone and bleached sex icon into the world of lingerie.

Pamela Anderson known more for being tasteless rather than tasteful wants to introduce women into wearing things she and her friends like to wear....

She says, “I am going to sit back and create a line of lingerie and body
products, products that are really sexy and things that I love to wear and my
friends love to wear. I also want to do a show about creating those
things.”

Personally I think she should try bringing a touch of glamour to her own everyday life and keep her smalls out of my panty drawer. I certainly don't want her touching my privates.

A little bit of humour

Dita Von Tease named as new face of Wonderbra

Dita Von Tease is well known for her love of retro lingerie and I have to agree with her that retro lingerie is much sexier than a thong any day. I have a complete lingerie fetish and love to dress up or rather under.

She said she hopes her range will bring glamour to everday lives. Jeepers who knew that everyday lives didn't include glamour already??? Show me a woman with an 'everyday life' and I will show you a glamour puss.

La Senza Valentine's Day Pick

La Senza has this gorgeous 100% silk set on sale. Perfect for Valentine's Day....

Tapping into my Eternal Spirit

I am loving these playfull nickers by Eternal Spirit.

In the bedroom they bring out my playful side and make me feel like a burlesque star. The matching corsets are divine as well.

Order online from their website or check for stockists near you. There are located in Nottingham so lucky anyone who lives near as their flagship store looks marvelous!!

Bring on Playtime!!

When he doesn't leave

I have been reading your blog for awhile now. I am also seeing a married man and have been for 3 years now. He promised to leave his wife after 1 year but that was two years ago and he is now saying he can't leave because his kids are not 'robust' enough. I know he loves me. But it is hard knowing he shares a beautiful home, 2 kids and all the holiday with his wife playing happy families while I am left out in the cold. What should I do?

Dear Stuckpeg,
I do sympathize I really do. My own emotions are waxing and waning. Some days I find myself hoping for more and hoping LOverboy will leave but then I got into my relationship as just a temporary fling so that is unrealistic and I remind myself that.

• Don't pin your hopes on him - remind yourself of his faults including being a lying cheat!!


• Date other men - go to single events, sign up to Dinnerdates.com, internet dating and make youself available - Let him know he is not the only game in town


• Make plans for holidays - Do something outrageous like trying skydiving


• Beware the mind poo - don't think about him when he is not arround


• Don't try to guess his thoughts men who cheat are selfish by nature


• He lies to you and he lies to her so don't fall for his excuses


• Remind yourself that what he tells you about their relationship is not necessarily true


• Be independent and only see him when it suits you


• Be fabulous, sexy beautiful and unobtainable

Be funny, charming and light around him. Do not make demands of any kind and that includes asking him when he will leave his wife. Don't let your life revolve around his. Do as you please and let him to the chasing. Chasing him will make him retreat. By dating and living your own life he may feel you are slipping away and leave his wife. But he will only leave if he is ready to do so. You cannot change this. But by living your own life you will be less hurt and not feel as though your life is on hold. You may also meet some one more deserving of your love and end it of your own accord. He may not be totally happy in his marriage but married life still has a powerful hold on most men. It is usally the wife that starts the divorce process.

Lady Salacity

Grass is green and so is jealously

Loverboy and I have had a few more opportunities than usual and spoken to each other daily as well as seeing each other all but one day. A lot of our time is spent having sex. However we do a fair amount of talking. This week we met for a drink and rode home together in a taxi chatting away. I tell him about my dating progress, the old boyfriend that crawled out the woodwork, my work, what my plans are for the week, what his plans are for the week, things in the news, the weather and anything really.

Everything except his relationship with his wife. I don't ask. In part because I fear the answer. I suspect it is going well and things are good at the moment. All the signs are there. They are planning their vacations for this year. He is talking about his promotion and thinking to the future when they might be able to afford a bigger house.

We have no plans. The closest we have to a plan is date when he thinks his wife will be out. Nothing is certain. I have no plans. I would love a bigger house but I can't afford it on my own. I would love to travel but I hate the idea of travelling on my own. I have plans to out with friends but that is all part of my regular routine. When you are single and live alone you go out for the sake of going out. It is hardly a special occasion.

A special occasion for me was when he carried my bag of garbage down to the street for me. The grass is always greener....

It's complicated...

Hopefully the old boyfriends popping up will make the married man think a bit. It is also making me think..... what if? wouldn't it be nice if? what would my life be like if?

One of these boyfriends is worth at least £20 million and he appears interested in me.

My old flame from 15 years ago and I are now chatting on a regular basis. His marriage ended in divorce and he appears to be interested in me. However, he may be just being friendly except he is way too friendly. From his photos his looks have gone seriously downhill. But he is a millionaire. He is also charming, intelligent, moral, conservative and shares several interests with myself.

He doesn't doesn't consider me a gold digger as he and I dated before he had money. I was madly in love with him but he left me for a girl who eventually caused him a lot of hurt and embarassment.

I am still dateless in 2008. Events keep getting in the way. I now have a two week disruption where I am working different hours outside London.

The flu bug hit and I was confined to my bed. I am still seeing the married man. We are getting together for short trysts and having plenty of pervy chats. But that is not progress.

I'd be lying if I said his being filthy rich didn't capture my imagination. Will just have to wait and see what develops. One thing is certain no amount of money will have me rushing up the isle without LOVE!

Dating site with a difference

Nothing ventured nothing gained. With a slow start to the 2008 dating calendar I need to widen the net and give my dating life a kick up the ass.

So on today's agenda is registering my profile on Sugardaddie.com. When pay day rolls around I will upgrade to the premium account. All my pre-Christmas shopping has a taken a dent and I promised myself I would be a good girl and not buy anything until at least February.

Old boyfriends never die

Today I had two old boyfriends contact me after over 20 years. One is now "happily married" with 4 kids, big house, cottage and all the mod-cons. The other is still single and kicking back as a self made millionaire playboy on a tax free tropical island.

I feel as though my life hasn't changed. Nothing big has happened. I have changed jobs several times and moved up the ladder quite a bit. But there is nothing dramatic about 2.4% pay raises each year and a slightly fancier title. Ok I also own a house now. But it is small and in still in need of work. I have a cat now. I am still single. Still looking ultimately for the great love of my life. Still hoping for a better tomorrow.

Both these guys I dumped after a few years for various reasons. I am still very certain that given the circumstances at the time I did the right thing.

But I feel like such a loser all the same.

Morning wake up call

On the way to work this morning I stopped by Loverboy's. He sent me a text to let me know the Mrs was gone for the day. The door was open as he said it would be. I removed my shoes and tip-toed up the stairs to find him lying naked in the marital bed. I leaned on the bed over him and kissed his lips. I lowered the cover to play with his nipples and lick them. I took turns alternating sucking each nipple. I then lowered the cover even lower and stroked his cock. I caressed his balls and massaged his inner thighs. Then I put his cock in my mouth I began to suck lowering my mouth on his cock and then raising my mouth. I increased the intensity and sucked hard. I could feel him swelling and starting to cum. I prepared myself to swallow and then he shot a big load into my mouth. I relaxed and let it all come into my mouth so I could swallow it all without choking. I swallowed his cum easily and then licked his cock as it relaxed.

I kissed him on the mouth and then I stood up to leave. He followed me to lock the door behind me. I put my shoes back on, picked up my handbag and said good bye. I continued my journey to work, having completed my morning wake up call.

Silk sheets proven to prevent wrinkles and increase the libido

After two weeks now of sleeping on pure silk sheets I am a completely converted. I want to sleep on these from now on. They feel absolutely amazing and so sexy!

Unfortunately caring for them is expensive so I probably will only use the full 100% silk set on special occasions. But because, Between the Sheets (image from site) also sells a washable polyester version which equally feels amazing, I am going to use them for everyday use but use them with pure silk pillow cases.

This is because I have learned that pure silk sheets also have health and beauty benefits as well:

• 100% pure Charmeuse silk is naturally hypoallergenic.
• Experts recommend Pure Silk pillowcases for hair care -
• Silk fabric contains natural cellular albumen fibre.This component is thought to contribute to skin health by helping to speed the metabolism of skin cells, thus reducing signs of aging.

Best candles for putting him in the mood for sex

In a previous post I wrote about the importance of scent and choosing a perfume to seduce. I am also a big fan of candles especially sented candles which add a nice gentle fragrance.The typical room sprays tend to smell artificial and chemically. I also want something natural.

I have just discovered the most amazing candle that contains all the key ingredients sandlewood, white flowers jasmine and Ylang Ylang as well as musk and patchouli, which are known to be sexually stimulating, it is called "Senuous" by Parks Candles.

The also do one called "Desire" which is also heavenly. It is heavier with sandle wood, patchouli, cedar and vertiver. Both of these are in the Mood range. However look in their other ranges for less expensive candles with pure Jasmine, Sandlewood and other seductive fragrances.

Candle Features:

• 100% Vegan
• Use no parafin waxes
• GM free
• Use no animal products
• Eco friendly from renewable sources
• Have a lead free wick
• Smokeless and soot free
• Fragranced with essential oils

No Sex In A Marriage Club

I have been in long term relationships and noticed the decline of sex. With one boyfriend the last two years of our relationship were entirely sexless. I talk to my girlfriends about this all the time and even they say how common it is.

Yet I am constantly amazed how big this club is. The number of no-strings attached sites is huge with hundreds of thousands of members. Finding a married man with whom to have an affair with is easy.


In the beginning of a no fantasies start about sex with other people. Of course at first they would never dream of breaking the taboo as well as becoming a cheater. Over time, frustration, anger, sadness, confusion, build up to point the idea enters as a possibility. Thinking about it more and more it becomes easy to justify it. When it becomes acceptable they get the courage to act on it.


Any guilty feelings are lessened because I know that Loverboy was at the 'possibility' point when I came along. His ad on a no-strings-attached sex site was already up and running.

The quality of men on the illicit affair sites are actually higher than the on the dating sites. By quality I am talking better looking, educated, successful and take better care of themselves. Also the ads almost always state that going out to nice restaurants is involved. They want the whole romantic and sensual package with a smart sexy and intelligent woman. Not a quick fuck in an alley or a slapper. I have now added a profile to a couple of the sites and have started to consider if maybe I should consider taking on another lover who is also married but has more time and can do weekends away.


Loverboy is sneaking around but a lot of men are doing it with their wives' consent. I was talking with one man who's wife told him to get a lover. She hates going out and feels fat and frumpy but she is happy that way as she just wants to stay home and look after the kids while keeping house. She has no desire to even go away on city breaks or do any of the fun stuff her husband wants to do. Yet together at home they are content but admit that they can't give each other what they want.


I think about often about how risky marriage is with the divorce rate and cost. I wonder if a more relaxed attitude to extramarital affairs would alleviate it. Loverboy says that now that he is getting sex (with me) he is happier in his marriage than he has been in awhile. At the point he was placing the contact ad he was considering walking out.


Would be interesting if there were statistics with other men with mistresses on impact of the marriage. After all men never leave their wives for a mistress right?

2008 Week 1 Dating Progress Report

DATING:

• Emails exchanged with three prospects from Match.com. Unfortunately the really cute one is off to Verbier until May!!


• Still waiting for the other two prospects to get back to me and actually set up dates for meeting up.


• 6 new responses all from unsuitable specimens. One lives in the north of
  England - too far, one has 3 kids (yuck), one fat and unattractive, 2 too old
  and old looking and the 6th not only too old , but lives too far, has no photo,
  is a driving instructor who's hobby is 'ice dancing'. Aaaarrrgggghhh.
  
• One rejected me as I don't want to have kids and he is desperate for them.

REST OF MY LIFE:

• A very productive day at work and and meeting old friends for an evening
  out.


• Bills to pay and still waiting for my bonus cheque.
  

MARRIED MAN:

• A few exchanges of pervy texts with Loverboy and making plans for
  our next encounter

  

2008 Dating Kick Off

After taking a Christmas break today was the day to get back out there and start dating again. I went on to the sites where I am registered; Match.com, The Single Solution, Dating Direct, My Single Friend and Matchmaker to see what Santa brought me.

Not only does he not look a day over sixty but the name vodka and the fact he supporting his hulking carcass on the rail says it all really.

Moment of jealously

Chatted with Loverboy all day using messenger. The conversation was quite mundane and not as horny as our usual banter. I was trying not to feel insecure. When I asked him what he did last night he said he and his wife shared a bottle of wine and discussed where to go on holiday. Venice, Rome, Tuscany, Prauge and a whole list of romantic destinations were rambled off. Every year they have about 3-4 holidays a year. I haven't been on proper holiday since my last relationship ended 7 years ago.

It all sounded so wonderful and a perfect way to spend an evening. How could I feel anything except jealously?

If only I could find a decent single guy and end this madness. I went onto Match.com to check my inbox and see is I can spot more guys to send out some winks to. Desperation is kicking in.

How to spot a fake internet dating profile

The golden rule is if seems to good to be true it probably is.

This gem has fake written all over him. Hi name is 'loving you' and his purpose in life is to please his woman. Nothing gives him greater pleasure. He works in construction and is good at DIY but he looks like a male model. He also loves to cook and clean, doing his share around the house. He also doesn't care what you look as he believes beauty is only on the inside. Pass the sick bucket!!

New Year Resolutions for 2008

1. Get a proper boyfriend and dump the married man - LOL
   
2. Keep seeing the married man until number one occurs or if he leaves his wife and declares his undying love.
   
3. Don't ever get as drunk as I did last week ever again. Work on redeeming myself for my bad behaviour. It probably will never be forgotten completely but at least I will not have a repeat episode. Ever.
   
4. Get rid of some of the Christmas weight gain so I can fit into my sexiest clothes for summer. Having a great figure will help him forget about my negative traits.
   
5. Be tidier and neater - all the partying has left the house looking like a dump.
   
6. Focus on my career. My personal life may be shit but at least I have a great career.
   
7. Stop buying stuff as a 'life replacement' and get a life.
   
8. Travel more.
   
9. Be the best I can be and don't settle for second best.
   
10. Increase my social circle.

Happy New Year

At one pm I was still lounging around not properly dressed. The dryer was hunmming in the background when I heard the knock at the door. It was Loverboy hungover and looking worse for wear after his night of partying. I was in bed by 11 pm but I looked worse.

Loverboy came over to see me and to kiss me, hold me and spend some 'stolen' time with me. He told me again that he loves me and kissed me very passionately. It was a wonderful start to the New Year.

My feelings were still very raw after Friday and not being invited to their party. Judging by him it was a great party. But I still have him as my lover and to me that is a great way to start the year. Happy New Year at last.